Denver Relationship Counseling

Lots of people have an idea of what relationship counseling is and think that you only need counseling when things get really bad. No matter what situation you face in your relationship, even if your problems seem trivial, it is important to provide a caring and supportive environment to help you find a way through any difficulties you may be facing in your relationship. For some people, their relationships and their lives are transformed; others we solve specific problems and move forward with more confidence and less anxiety.

Even if things don’t change, counseling may help you to see things in a different way or make the decision that’s right for you to move forward. Just talking to someone who is not involved in the relationship can help you.

I personally draw from Attachment Based Therapy and Transactional Analysis (TA). Eric Berne developed the concept and paradigm of transactional analysis in the late 1950s. Transactional Analysis is a therapy that looks at social relationships and analyzes the relationships to determine the ego state of the client (whether parent-like, child-like, or adult-like) as a basis for understanding behavior. In transactional analysis, the client is taught to alter the ego state as a way to solve emotional problems.

Fundamentally, TA is an approach firmly grounded in the principles of equality, mutual respect and the belief that everyone has intrinsic value as a human being and, therefore, have the potential to make a valid contribution to both their life and the lives of others.

Unhealthy childhood experiences can lead to these being pathologically fixated in the Child and Parent ego states, bringing discomfort to an individual and/or others in a variety of forms, including many types of problems.